Confident Behaviour vs Low Self-Confidence
How we act shows to other people how confident we are in ourselves. We have to act confident in order to make people believe that we are. Even if you don’t feel very confident you’ll soon find that behaving as if you are confident actually inspires that confident. Here are some ways people are confident behave vs people who aren’t confident.
Acting For Themselves
For a start, self-confident people don’t let others decide how they should think and feel. They act according to what they think is the right thing to do, even if they know others will mock them for it. People who lack self-confidence are very conforming. They tend to rarely act for the sake of acting and are constantly aware of how other people are going to perceive them and they don’t even realising how stifling and stunting that is.
Self-confident people are also far better at taking risks and also taking the extra steps to achieve their goals. People who lack self-confidence have major trouble doing something risky. It’s only by taking a risk that you can succeed though. Having low self-esteem stops you from taking chances in general, never mind risks. Step out of your comfort zone every so often. When you come back alive your confidence will have gone up a bit because you know there was no reason to be afraid.
Owning Up To Mistakes
One thing that sets self-confident people apart is the ability to objectively look at their mistakes. Being self-confident is being able to put your hands up, admit you made a mistake, and move on from it. When you accept your mistakes you understand how the mistake was made and what to avoid in the future. By contrast people with low self-confidence on the other hand avoid their mistakes. They try their best to cover them up and hide them before people can notice and call them out on it. They also fixate on their mistakes without learning from them, and make the same mistakes repeatedly as a result.
This may sound like something you won’t believe but self-confident people are also very humble. They wait for other people to congratulate them rather than tooting their own horn. It is the behaviour of those who lack confidence to brag about their accomplishments to anyone who will care to listen in the hopes of being complimented. They do this because they hope the other person acknowledges them and their abilities. Self-confident people know they’re good, and don’t need other people to tell them this.
People who have confidence in themselves are great at taking compliments. They thank people for the compliment and are happy to get them. People who lack self-confidence, unsurprisingly, are very bad at taking compliments. They tend to downplay their achievements and pretend that anyone could have done what they did. That’s something that these unconfident people need to understand; they couldn’t. Only you could do what you did.
How To Be More Confident?
There are already some tips on how to be more confident detailed up there. By acting confident you can actually increase your confidence. “Fake it ‘til you make it” as they say. The important first step to building self-confidence is to take a look at where you and where you want to be.
To build self-confidence you need to know your strengths and know your weaknesses. What are you good at? What do you want to be better at? When you know the areas you want to improve you can begin improving them and building confidence.
It’s hard work to increase your confidence. It’s tougher than you think to step out of your comfort zone. But it’s such a necessity to do if you want to improve your life. Think about what you want out of life, and how you can get it, and never take “no” for an answer. That’s what confident people do and that’s what you need to do too.